This factor is No. 1 when trying to maintain and improve your social relationships

One of the fundamental factors for all human beings, after solving the most elementary needs such as food and housing, is that of human relationships; and that is one of the senses of the famous phrase of Aristotle that defined us as "political animals", that is, animals that need to live in society.

That is why it is so important to maintain and improve your social relationships , something that is not always easy to achieve, especially if you do not know this simple rule that we will talk about next.

This factor is No.1 when trying to maintain and improve your social relationships

Emma Seppala is Scientific Director of Research and Education for Compassion and Altruism at Stanford University, and author of several books on human relations and the elements that favor or hinder these interactions.

For example, in terms of the most basic relations-and at the same time complex-between humans, such as those between men and women, Seppala does not agree with the psychological and sociological tendencies that emphasize the differences between both sexes -»l The men are from Mars and the women from Venus »-when there are more similarities, and it is even common that in each human being characteristics of both sexes are present; and believes that there are more serious problems in human interaction than gender differences, such as the growing loneliness of urban individuals and difficulties in relating to others, regardless of sex.

She believes that the No.1 factor to maintain and improve your social relationships consists of learning to love yourself , being kind to yourself and practicing autocompasion .

This factor is No. 1 when trying to maintain and improve your social relationships

Emma Seppala is the author of The Hapiness Track ( The groove of happiness: how to apply the science of happiness at full speed ), and use the term autocompasion in a different way than we are used to: it is not about continually lamenting our mistakes and failures, or how badly we can leave, but learning to forgive us and not be hard on ourselves when something does not go as we expect.We are part of a society that promotes guilt and a strong sense of self-criticism that can affect self-esteem.

And the point would be this: if we do not learn to love and forgive each other it is very likely that others will not either. Love, like many other things, begins at home .

Aristotle is also credited with another phrase about humans who pretended to live outside social relations, and these could only be two things: gods or monsters, and the idea of improving your relationships is not to fall into any of those extreme, and just be human in search of a better personal development.

If you are attracted to this topic, do not stop reading the 5 things that can end a friendship, and the 4 agreements to live more harmoniously.

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