From Disney with their perfect princes and princesses, going through the characters of anime of incredible proportions and adorable faces and the stratospheric sexual encounters of the videos only for adults , even Hollywood itself, have dedicated themselves to-perhaps consciously- sexual ideals, romantic and, ultimately, human relationships that often have little real.
How to have a happy sex life with your partner? Science responds
«I blame Disney for my high expectations for men» « I blame porn for my high expectations regarding my sexual exploits « «I blame Hollywood for my high expectations regarding the idea of true love»… All these complaints exist, we have heard them millions of times and, although they sometimes seem exaggerated, we have bad news: they are right to be.
A team of experts in Social Psychology at the University of Toronto has dedicated itself to investigating the sex life of a sample of 1900 individuals to try to answer the question How many times has the human being done in history: How do you get a happy sex life? What makes it full?

Members of this group studied were both heterosexual and homosexual couples, so we could be sure that their conclusions are applicable to a large percentage of the population.
What to discover did they go? Thanks to this research they have discovered that satisfaction or sexual happiness in long-term, long-term relationships revolve around 2 basic factors :
1 The desire we have to try to solve our sexual problems
2.Our sexual expectations
In this sense, people who do not have ideals that are too rigid or "fanciful" about their "better half", the supposed almost unbearable attraction that it has to awaken in you and other theories related to true love, they were much happier in the bedroom.
The author of the studio, Jessica Maxwell, explained normal and sometimes inevitable, that is to find some complications in the sexual field with your partner , as time passes and the relationship progresses, however, it seems that in general this fact tends to be forgotten or be aware that the sexual life of each couple should look like a garden.With worms and mud? No.As something that should be taken care of with care , «water and nourish» to keep it alive and healthy.
During the investigation they discovered that the sex life of the couples goes through different phases : The 1st is the honeymoon period -which lasts about two or three years-. The 2nd is the one of «decrease» , in which the sexual satisfaction of both individuals declines.At this moment, the researchers insist that they should talk and look for ways to apply changes that make sex again something tremendously fun and enjoyable.

And what does this have to do with expectations ? Everything.Once passed the honeymoon phase , which looks a lot like that romantic and perfect love, with passion and sexual marathons, suddenly, it seems that the half orange you had found it no longer meets the basic parameters of the concept .Also, in the films the relationship with a "happily ever after" is raised.Generally, you can't see the ups and downs or problems between sheets, which makes many people think that their relationship not only goes wrong, but that it is doomed to failure, because it does not resemble what they had always imagined.The problem is that that goal they had built is based on something false, It is an unattainable ideal.The good news? You can work to improve.

Maxwell insists that there are many people who are using their sex life as a meter to calculate if their relationship is going well If your intimate life is not full, then it is because your relationship collapses and there is nothing to do.However, you must make an effort, we must all do it, and try to work to improve the situation , because perfection does not exist, but you can achieve a great Satisfaction with effort, communication and passion.
So you know, for a good relationship between the sheets with your partner you must: set aside expectations and be open to work to solve the problems or sexual instatisfactions that you can find together.
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