A betrayal is much more than the fact that someone we love deceives us with another person. It is the breaking of a pact , of a commitment that two people had implicitly established, without need for agreements, contracts or signatures.
Now, it should also be noted that there are many types of betrayals, and we are not talking only of an infidelity.It is often said that there is another type of pain and humiliation, as it can be emotional betrayal.
They are people who can lie to us for a long time, playing with our emotions and feelings without betraying us with third parties.However, love who say they offer us, is not sincere.
How should we react to these types of situations? There is one thing that is clear. Not all of us are equal , and not all of us find relief with the same strategies.Moreover, there are couples, for example, who even accept that their spouses have parallel relationships, however, also in these cases there is some kind of emotional limit that must be respected so as not to harm the other.
How then to manage that pain caused by any type of betrayal? Let's talk about it today.
Don't let it happen, understand that this betrayal is in you
It may surprise you, but there are people who prefer to let it pass , look away and do as if "nothing had happened." The reason? They prefer to remain silent, hide and let nothing change.They do not want to lose that relationship even if they have been betrayed.
It is not adequate.Who is silent, hides, and who hides conceals something that has not managed, who has not stopped to analyze to know what it means personally.Do I feel humiliated? Do I feel undervalued in the face of such infidelity? Do I feel anger, how should I channel it?
It is not healthy to hide or conceal such intense emotions.They destroy us little by little.faces.
Leave everything or forgive?
As we have stated at the beginning, there is no foolproof strategy for all people alike.Forgiving or leaving everything depends on the situation, of the fact itself and of our own personality.Now, there is something that is clear: after a betrayal nothing is the same.
There are situations that in a way, They can understand each other.Imagine that we have been very focused on our work, prioritizing our affairs to such an extent that we have not considered our partners for months.Until something happens, a slip, whatever be. How to react? It is, without a doubt, something very personal.
There are those who value the situation and understand what happened, moreover, sometimes there are couples in which, these kinds of things serve to revive the relationship, to realize "what they were neglecting." Others however do not accept it and see a double betrayal : physics, and staff for not having understood their professional obligation.not having offered support.
There are cases and cases.Then, for example, there are other situations in which, for example, we have come to offer forgiveness not once, but twice, three times and six times .And it happens again.In these cases it deserves us to pause a moment to think, and perhaps, the need to "let go" of something that only offers us unhappiness and slow destruction.
Try to make everything private: your decision is only yours
Who should decide whether to continue or leave the relationship, it's you. No one should decide or for you, do not get carried away by the comments of third parties.It is possible that some relatives tell us that "these things happen, we must endure", or your friends may recommend that you pack as soon as possible and delete that person of your mind.
Act calmly, thinking about your integrity and your balance internal without the need to attend to external noise.Acts like this make us mature, and as such it requires courage to overcome the consequences.If you decide to forgive, you know that who should strive to keep the relationship afloat is your partner , showing you that complicity and lost confidence.You should heal yourself inside, because these kinds of things are not usually forgotten, they can be overcome but leave a mark.
If far from forgiving, your option is to move forward cutting that emotional bond, you need a lot of strength and personal efforts to get back to hope, to close that stage avoiding first of all holding grudges or hatred .Often, negative emotions make us prisoners, so the best thing is close that door and allow you to open new ones.
In conclusion, what you decide depends on the sun or from you.Affective life is continuous learning that is worth experimenting with balance, passion and emotional intelligence.
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